Why it’s important to understand the power of your words
For those who’ve been with us for a while, you know that on the podcast, we've been exploring the power of stories and words in shaping our lives. Today, we’re honing in on a crucial yet often overlooked aspect of this topic: the profound impact of language.
It's time to lean into how powerful our words truly are.
The Hidden Power of Words
When we think about language, it's usually in terms of respectfulness—like a teacher admonishing a student to "watch your language." While respectful language is important, there’s a deeper dimension we rarely discuss: the creative power of language.
Words are not just tools for communication; they are the very foundation that builds our reality.
Language functions as an architectural system. This concept is central to Appreciative Inquiry's constructionist principle, which states that our words create our world. How we talk to ourselves and others isn't just a matter of semantics; it shapes our perceptions, attitudes, and ultimately, our reality.
Self-Talk: The Blueprint of Our Future
One of the most palpable impacts of language is found in our self-talk. What are the stories we tell ourselves? How do we describe our experiences and identities? These narratives form the blueprint of our future. As Crystal aptly noted, the story we tell ourselves is the architecture of our future.
Consider the difference between saying "yes" and "yeah." The latter often lacks conviction, subtly telling ourselves—and others—that we are not fully committed or confident. This seemingly minor shift in language can have significant implications for our self-esteem and decision-making.
The Diminutive Effect of Certain Words
Words like "just" can have a surprisingly diminishing effect. For instance, saying "I just have one question" minimizes the importance of your inquiry. This kind of language can undermine our assertiveness and confidence, subtly shaping our self-perception and interactions.
We've been conditioned to equate assertiveness with aggression, but in reality, assertiveness builds trust and shows confidence in our decisions. It signals to others—and ourselves—that we are capable and decisive.
The Hidden Pitfalls of the word,"Hope"
Another word worth scrutinizing is "hope." While it appears positive, "hope" can often mask fear or serve as a manipulative tool.
Phrases like, "I hope you understand" can subtly gaslight the listener, as it is underhandedly saying that if they don’t agree, then they are the problem.
Genuine understanding and trust happens when we don’t put the weight of understanding on the other person; instead, we seek to be as clear as possible.
Because clear is kind.
Reclaim How You Use Language
To harness the transformative power of language, a great place to start is with simple mindfulness.
While this may seem counter-intuitive, the reality is that even taking micro-moments throughout your day to reflect on your words and their impact can give you space to grow your communication abilities. By disentangling from automatic, conditioned responses, you can cultivate a more intentional and empowered use of language.
And the best way for that disentangling to happen is bit by bit.
Our words shape our reality in profound ways. By becoming conscious of the stories we tell ourselves and the language we use, we can craft a more empowered and authentic narrative. Let's transform our reality, one word at a time.
Thank you for joining us on this journey. Remember, your new story starts now.
